What better way to start things rolling than to share a list of things that, surprisingly, has made sense in my work life and that CAN apply to myself and my personal life… so here goes:
1. WRITE IT DOWN.
Yes its fabulous that you have a photographic memory! But who are we kidding? If you’re attention span’s like mine (which Ducky describes as that of a 3 year old) then write all the things that you think has to get done. In creating this checklist, make sure that you’re being honest to yourself and make sure that this is really your responsibility.
- CLEAN THE HOUSE
- GET RID OF YOUR HALLOWEEN COSTUME FROM 1995
- CONFRONT YOUR DEMONS
- STOP WEARING YOUR MOM’S HEELS.
- DO THE GROCERIES
- DO YOUR LOVER
- EAT HEALTHY
- GET A DOG.
CLASSIFY. ANALYZE. ITEMIZE. After you’ve squeezed everything out of your little’ol brain. Simplify your list by stacking in them in different categories – FOR THE OFFICE? FOR MY HOUSE? FOR CHRISTMAS? FOR THE ARRIVAL OF THE LOVE OF MY LIFE? By doing so, you’d know which hat you have to wear while making a decision on what should come first in your list and when you should act on it.
3. KEEP A SCHEDULE.
You can always divide your week and the year to several parts – THE FIRST HALF, WEDNESDAY, THE FINAL HALF and THE WEEKEND. This is how I always do my timelines – THE INITIAL WORK, THE COUNTERCHECKING, THE FINAL STRETCH and THE BREATHER. You at least have to know where are you at some point in doing your checklist and have a day to assess where this is all going – that’s why there’s WEDNESEDAY or JUNE or 12 PM… they are right smack in the middle of all the scheds because I think it’s really necessary to have a day to assess everything before continuing because you are not the only factor in the equation – there’s your partner, your parents or just your Mom (which could be a lot worse) , MMDA, the motorcycle riders, the weather, the billboards and so many other things that could either help you or simply ruin all your plans. Analyze and see how you’re going to attack the situation then know the things that you need to make it work.
4. JUST DO IT AND DO IT FAST!
IMMEDIATELY GO TO #1. A lot of people say that the best time to do something is right now. After making that list, immediately do what you have in #1. Because the faster you can get things started, the more promise that you can get it done. So before you admire your list and how wonderfully intelligent you are, focus on the first thing that you have to do and before you know it, you’d be down to the last number on your list.
5. PAT YOUR BACK LATER.
For most of us, we are our own critic, boss, admirer, cheerleader and that’s just one helluva’ psychiatrist’s nightmare, darling. Though multi-functionality is a gift, multiple personality is a disorder. If you’ve done it the past and that’s what makes you cope, then delay it for later. We sometimes revel in the first effort that we do and think of it as an achievement and that we deserve a reward for being such a good boy/girl … well then that’s ok – especially if you’d like to finish you checklist when you’re 85 (which not entirely such a bad thing if you want to live forever and never die.)
6. SPICE IT UP.
Ask your partner if he/she wants to do it with you – it can bring you closer and you’d get to know each other better. Invite your family to help you with it and update them from time to time. That’ll make for good conversations during reunions or family gatherings. Be creative and have fun accomplishing your checklist!
But there’s one thing you have to remember. Be honest to yourself and make sure that all the things on your list are things that you really have to do – because there are just some things that we just have to stop obsessing about. Be realistic and move on…sometimes, forgive ourselves because no one’s perfect.
Now, let’s wish each other good luck and let’s see if we all follow our TO DO LIST. Write us and tell us what you think.